This is an article from a magazine about living with ADD. I thought you may enjoy it and here is the link to the website. There are a number of good articles to be found on this site. http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/6892.html
Many parents of ADHD children worry about their being bullied. But some children with ADHD are bullies. According to a recent study, a child with ADHD is three times more likely to bully other kids than a child without the condition. Here’s how to stop bullying in its tracks.
Be all ears.
If a teacher calls complaining about your child’s aggressive behavior, you may want to make excuses for his actions. Don’t! Gather information—the who, what, when, and where—so you can help your child and end the call on an up note, says Alan Kazdin, Ph.D., director of the Parenting Center and Child Conduct Clinic at Yale University.
Don’t accuse him.
Avoid the temptation to yell. Instead, calmly say, “That was your teacher on the phone, and she said you were seen pushing Johnny on the playground. What’s your side of the story?” Don’t be surprised if he admits nothing and shows no remorse. “You should remind him of how he felt the last time someone was mean to him,” says Robert Sege, M.D., Ph.D., professor of pediatrics at Tufts University School of Medicine.
Limit opportunities to be a bully.
Ask the teacher where the bullying occurs. If it’s on the school bus, try assigned seating—putting your child near the bus driver and away from his target. If it’s at recess, have your child play only in a well-supervised area.
Play to your child’s strengths.
“Bullies are natural leaders,” says Sege. Talk with the teacher about giving your child a job to do when he usually acts up. Examples: Starting a playground clean-up crew or delivering notes to the office.
Help your child control his emotions.
If your child lashes out when others tease him, use role-playing to help him regulate his feelings. “Say, ‘ I love you and think you’re wonderful, but I’m going to taunt you as part of a game,’” says Kazdin. “‘No matter what I say, ignore me and don’t get aggressive.’ Then you might say, ‘You’re weird.’” If your child doesn’t reply, praise him. Then say, “I’m going to call you more names, and you are going to walk away.” If he does, praise him again.
The more secure your child feels, the less likely he will bully others.
