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Joe Van Deuren on May 21st, 2010

If you are the victim of bullying and harassment, try not to show that it bothers you. There is an oriental philosophy called Mushin.  Mushin means to stay cool.  Don’t let your feelings show.   If the bullies think you don’t care what they do, they may move on to another target.

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Joe Van Deuren on May 19th, 2010

I used to go to your “typical” high school, but I didn’t really fit in. I didn’t play sports. I was a nerd. I had friends, but my friends and I were outcasts. I used to be a violent person and be a bully to bullies. I would justify that by saying [...]

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Joe Van Deuren on May 16th, 2010

ALTHOUGH THE number of overweight children is rising, a study has found that obese children under ten are still more likely to be bullied by thinner classmates even if they are popular or smart.

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Joe Van Deuren on March 28th, 2010

Here is an interesting article from the Netherlands.  I believe it demonstrates the need of each of us as parents or as teachers to be aware of our students needs.
GRONINGEN, Netherlands, March 26 (UPI) — Most bullies are motivated to gain status and affection so they avoid bullying those who are well liked, Dutch researchers [...]

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Joe Van Deuren on February 28th, 2010

There can be a string of incidents that take place that has an affect on the bullying that takes place in schools.  I imagine the boss who is bullied by his boss.  He in turn bullies his assistant.  They go home and take it out on their spouse, who in turn takes it out on [...]

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Andrianq on February 19th, 2010

This is an article from a magazine about living with ADD.  I thought you may enjoy it and here is the link to the website.  There are a number of good articles to be found on this site. http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/6892.html
Many parents of ADHD children worry about their being bullied. But some children with ADHD are bullies. [...]

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Joe Van Deuren on February 17th, 2010

Great article on bullies in middle school that I would like to share with you.  I might also add that when we can build our child’s self esteem by helping them to excel in something that is all of their own.  It does not have to be a sport.  It can be whatever it is [...]

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Joe Van Deuren on February 4th, 2010

I found the following article very interesting especially with the comments from Richard Lavoie, whom I have so much respect.  His work has re-opened our eyes to the development of children and their needs.
Kids who get bullied and snubbed by peers may be more likely to have problems in other parts of their lives, [...]

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Joe Van Deuren on January 29th, 2010

Another story is told of a young boy, Ryan, who took his own life because of being bullied.  I copied this story for here as a way of a reminder that all of us have a responsibility to help our children learn to be compassionate and demonstrate empathy.  We also can help them to know [...]

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Joe Van Deuren on January 22nd, 2010

When a child is the target of a bully there are so many things that go through their mind.  First they most likely are afraid, but they may also be confused, sad, angry, intimidated, or they may even feel vindictive.  In addition we may see a difference in the way we see them handle themselves.  [...]

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